Of course sex takes work

Of course sex takes work

Many people have erroneous beliefs about how sex should be easy. Since it often is easy in the beginning of a relationship, when we’re in the honeymoon phase, we can come to believe that this ease is what we should expect in our sex life. Or we may adopt the idealized...
Your expectations are the problem

Your expectations are the problem

In the last post, I talked about how the Sexual Avoidance Cycle starts with disappointment. Disappointment is all about your unrealistic expectations. It is the literal definition of disappointment—“the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment...