Honey, can we talk?

Honey, can we talk?

Throughout my writings, I have discussed how people get stuck in a cycle of avoiding sex and why that happens. I have also offered some tools to make communicating with your partner easier. But sometimes just beginning the conversation is the hardest part. Broaching...
Real safety come from honesty

Real safety come from honesty

In last week’s blog, I discussed the difference between vulnerability and openness. By being open, rather than vulnerable, you can be honest, present, and authentic with your partner while still protecting your safety. First and foremost, you are responsible for...
Say no when you need to say no

Say no when you need to say no

In last week’s blog, I laid out two “rules of the court” for addressing issues in your relationship. Let’s look at another. Say no when you need to say no When used properly, no is a good thing. You each need to trust that the other is taking care of themselves, so...
New rules for relationships

New rules for relationships

New rules for relationships In last week’s blog, I defined sex as the physical expression of our innate drives for love, intimacy, and pleasure. With this definition in mind, I offer a few directions, or “rules of the court” for how to improve your sex life. These...
Open is better than vulnerable

Open is better than vulnerable

I know it’s a hot topic right now, but I take issue with the current view of how important it is to be vulnerable. It may be semantics, but to me, “vulnerable” implies you can be decimated. I prefer the word “open.” I looked up vulnerable in the dictionary. Here’s...