How to Play Your Side of the Court

How to Play Your Side of the Court

Last week, I wrote again about playing your own side of the court and offered some ideas about using that premise to deal with issues of desire discrepancy. Now I want to offer a few other examples of how you can play your side of the court in working through issues...
Make a request, but remain flexible

Make a request, but remain flexible

My last several blog posts have focused on how to make discussing relationship difficulties with your partner easier. I talked about how using “I” language and confronting yourself first can demonstrate to your partner that you are willing to take responsibility for...
Confront yourself first

Confront yourself first

In last week’s blog, I talked about how using “I” language can help improve communication with your partner. Doing so acknowledges to both of you that you take responsibility for your own feelings. Likewise, it is important to confront yourself first when discussing...
Use “I” language

Use “I” language

Use “I” language as much as possible, describing your own experience and your reaction to it, without making it about the other person. Don’t label or judge your partner. Don’t be attached to the idea that what you think and feel is right. Your feelings are valid...
Distinguish between thoughts and feelings

Distinguish between thoughts and feelings

In last week’s blog, I introduced the topic of broaching relationship conversations with your partner. Over the coming weeks, you will see posts laying out specific tools and examples to help makes those conversations easier. The first one is essential to any...

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