Couples commonly get into a cycle of avoiding sex. It starts when sex starts to feel tense, disappointing, or problematic. Once that happens enough, it can feel fraught – or risky – because you anticipate a “bad” outcome. At that point, it’s natural to start to avoid sex. Avoiding having it, talking about it, or doing anything to change it. The problem is, that increases the pressure on your sex life. Which makes it hard to have sex you feel good about. This is the negative cycle that may have you feeling distant and disconnected from your partner, at least sexually.
Recent Posts
Tags
baggage (4) be selfish (2) communication (20) conflict (2) conflict resolution (2) couples counseling (1) desire (4) desire discrepancy (4) difficult conversations (1) emotional regulation (1) family of origin (11) grief (1) honesty (2) integrity (1) intimacy (33) listening (1) love and support (1) marriage (13) masturbation (1) menopause (1) nine phases (9) pornography (1) power (1) reactive desire (1) relationship (3) relationship rules (1) relationships (32) sex (35) sexless marriage (1) sex therapy (6) sexual avoidance (1) sexual desire (14) sexual expectations (2) sexual history (3) sexual myths (2) sexual performance (3) sexual problems (1) sexual response (1) substance abuse (1) talk about sex (1) trust (1) vaginal health (1) validation (1) wanting (2) your side of the court (2)
Recent Comments