How Healthy is Your Sex Life?

Free Online Quiz with Detailed Results Sent to Your Inbox

How healthy is your sex life?

See how you score!


This is a 30 question quiz. While not a scientific quiz, it does use what I've learned about healthy sexual relationships in my years of clinical practice as a sex therapist. I have designed it to give you an idea of the state of your intimate relationship, over several criteria. You will get your results and suggestions about how to improve via email, as well as ongoing information and ideas about improving your relationship and creating your best possible sex life.

This quiz is designed for people that are in a sexual relationship and who want to look at the interactions between themselves and one specific partner. If you are in a sexless stage of your relationship and the answers don't already account for that, answer the question based on what sex was like when you had it. 

"Sex" refers to any sexual encounter, not just penetrative sex. 

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Once you finish the quiz, detailed results will be emailed to you. Providing your email address here will allow you to join my mailing list. But you can opt out by not responding to the confirmation email OR you can unsubscribe at any time later. I hope you stick around, though! The first thing you'll receive is a copy of my top 10 sex tips, followed regularly by other helpful information and ideas to help you improve your sex life. You also get free access to my private, online Q & A webinars.

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Do either of you avoid sex?

1 out of 30

Do you go to bed at the same time?

2 out of 30

How often does it seem that sex ends badly?

3 out of 30

Is there a sexual problem that hasn't been resolved or accommodated?

4 out of 30

Do you and your partner talk about sex?

5 out of 30

Does one of you suggest sex and the other respond by ignoring it, deflection, or humor?

6 out of 30

Does one of you just go through the motions in sex?

7 out of 30

How often is one of you having sex out of a sense of obligation?

8 out of 30

Does one person shame, blame or criticize the other about sex?

9 out of 30

How frequently do you fight about sex?

10 out of 30

Does one of you ever threaten to leave the relationship over sex?

11 out of 30

How often is one of you doing something sexually they know the other doesn’t like?

12 out of 30

To what degree are you distracted when you have sex?

13 out of 30

Are you off in your mind/fantasy during sex?

14 out of 30

Does one of you feel inadequate?

15 out of 30

Do you struggle to relax and be present for sex?

16 out of 30

To what degree do you worry that you don’t know what you’re doing?

17 out of 30

Do you generally feel self conscious during sex?

18 out of 30

Do you ask for what you want in sex?

19 out of 30

Do you know what turns you on?

20 out of 30

Do you bring any passion or eroticism to the sex that you're having?

21 out of 30

Is frequency of sex an issue in your relationship?

22 out of 30

To what degree is sex with your partner about getting to the finish?

23 out of 30

Does one of you do all the initiating of sex?

24 out of 30

How much energy do you put into making sex and romance interesting – dressing up, buying flowers, sexual surprises, etc?

25 out of 30

How often do you and your partner create the opportunity, on purpose, to be sexual together?

26 out of 30

To what degree do you feel exhausted and overwhelmed in your life, to the detriment of your sex life?

27 out of 30

Is sex at the bottom of the priority list?

28 out of 30

Do you keep the plans, appointments and dates with your partner that you set?

29 out of 30

Have you followed through with agreements to see a doctor or a therapist about any sexual issues?

30 out of 30

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