How Healthy is Your Sex Life? Free Online Quiz with Detailed Results Sent to Your Inbox How healthy is your sex life? See how you score! This is a 30 question quiz. While not a scientific quiz, it does use what I've learned about healthy sexual relationships in my years of clinical practice as a sex therapist. I have designed it to give you an idea of the state of your intimate relationship, over several criteria. You will get your results and suggestions about how to improve via email, as well as ongoing information and ideas about improving your relationship and creating your best possible sex life. This quiz is designed for people that are in a sexual relationship and who want to look at the interactions between themselves and one specific partner. If you are in a sexless stage of your relationship and the answers don't already account for that, answer the question based on what sex was like when you had it. "Sex" refers to any sexual encounter, not just penetrative sex. 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Email address First name I agree to the terms and conditions (see links in footer) Do either of you avoid sex?Yes, all the timeFrequentlySometimesEvery once in a whileNo, no avoidance, just a yes or a noDo you go to bed at the same time?Yes, all the timeMostlySometimesNot usuallyNoHow often does it seem that sex ends badly?All the time / or We never have sexFrequentlySometimesOccasionallyNever, I wouldn't say it's bad no matter what happensIs there a sexual problem that hasn't been resolved or accommodated?Yes, we have an ongoing problem that is messing everything up / We never have sexYeah, there's something going on, and it's a roll of the dice every time we have sexSometimes it gets in the wayEvery once in a while it's an issueThere is no sexual issue OR we've adjusted and moved onDo you and your partner talk about sex?Yes, easilyYes, basicallySometimesInfrequentlyNoDoes one of you suggest sex and the other respond by ignoring it, deflection, or humor?Yes, all the time / Neither of us ever brings it upFrequentlySometimesInfrequentlyNoDoes one of you just go through the motions in sex?Yes, and they just lie there/make it clearOccasionally, but they go along okayNoHow often is one of you having sex out of a sense of obligation?AlwaysFrequentlySometimesRarelyNeverDoes one person shame, blame or criticize the other about sex?Yes, all the timeFrequentlySometimesInfrequentlyNeverHow frequently do you fight about sex?All the timeFrequentlySometimesInfrequentlyNeverDoes one of you ever threaten to leave the relationship over sex?Yes, a lotSometimesYes, but it's said calmly, not as a threatWe know we have to deal with it to stay togetherNoHow often is one of you doing something sexually they know the other doesn’t like?NeverInfrequentlySometimesFrequentlyAll the time / We would if we were having sexTo what degree are you distracted when you have sex?All the timeFrequentlySometimesEvery once in a whileI don'tAre you off in your mind/fantasy during sex?Not at allRarelySometimes/just to climaxPretty regularlyAll the timeDoes one of you feel inadequate?YesI don't knowNoDo you struggle to relax and be present for sex?Yes, all the timeFrequentlySometimesEvery once in a whileNoTo what degree do you worry that you don’t know what you’re doing?A lotSometimesI'm learning/openIt's rare to be concernedNot at allDo you generally feel self conscious during sex?YesSomewhatNoDo you ask for what you want in sex?NoRarelyOnly subtlySometimesYesDo you know what turns you on?YesMostlySomewhatA little bitNoDo you bring any passion or eroticism to the sex that you're having?NoRarelySometimesFrequentlyAlwaysIs frequency of sex an issue in your relationship?YesSomewhatNoTo what degree is sex with your partner about getting to the finish?We just get it over withWe're efficient; we take the shortest routeWe are not in a hurryWe take scenic detoursThe finish isn't the goal; it's a stop along the wayDoes one of you do all the initiating of sex?NoMostlyYesHow much energy do you put into making sex and romance interesting – dressing up, buying flowers, sexual surprises, etc?A lot; we keep it new and interestingPretty much; we're investedSome; sometimes we do new things or make an effortA little; every once in a while we work at itNone; we're on auto pilotHow often do you and your partner create the opportunity, on purpose, to be sexual together?NeverRarelySometimesWith regularityFrequentlyTo what degree do you feel exhausted and overwhelmed in your life, to the detriment of your sex life?We make time, no matter whatIt's hit and missConstantlyIs sex at the bottom of the priority list?YesSomewhatNoDo you keep the plans, appointments and dates with your partner that you set?No/We don't make anyEvery once in a whileSometimesUsuallyAlways, barring emergenciesHave you followed through with agreements to see a doctor or a therapist about any sexual issues?Yes/we don't have anyEventually/Sort ofNoTime is Up!