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What if I don’t have spontaneous desire for sex?
It's a myth that you are supposed to have spontaneous desire for sex. Some people do, but others only feel desire after they've gotten aroused. This "reactive" desire is important! https://youtu.be/flSq1zVKCf8
Don’t get your ideas about sex from porn
Porn is not sex. It's entertainment. And as such, it's not the place to learn about how sex should go. https://youtu.be/kVirNn9edHI
Your expectations are what’s keeping you stuck
We have so many ideas about how sex is supposed to work. The problem is that most of these are unrealistic and unhelpful. In this week's Just the Tip Tuesday, I talk about how to examine your expectations and why you'd want to. https://youtu.be/1AYrQpiVFsA
Are you stuck in an avoidance cycle?
So many couples end up avoiding sex. They get caught in a loop of disappointment, avoidance, and pressure. https://youtu.be/_bXDrs4LPk8
How it feels to struggle
When sex is working, it feels pretty important. When it isn't, it feels huge! https://youtu.be/rRCwqWo7Z3k
Why it is so powerful to work on your sex life
Couples come to me after marriage counseling and have made great strides in dealing with many issues. Except their sex life hasn't improved. What may be surprising is that it works way better in reverse! If you take on what needs to change to transform your sex life,...
Interviews
TV Appearances
Let's Talk Live (WJLA) - Holiday stress, relationships and Sex Without Stress
Radio
- The Daily Drum: Will your relationship survive the holidays?
- Love, Lust & Laughter: Sex Without Stress, Part 2
- Love, Lust & Laughter: Sex Without Stress, Part 1
Podcast Appearances
- Grapefruit and Granola: Tips for improving your relationships
- This is why you're single: Sex without stress
- Beautifully Equipped: Sex myths and intimacy barriers
- SuperPower U: Manifesting
- Health Reporter: Sexual intimacy
- Sexology: Signs of a healthy sex life
- Keepin' It Juicy: Sex over 50
- Sacred Psychology: Sex and intimacy
- Divorce Survival Podcast: Let's talk about sex
- Women in the Middle: Midlife, mindfulness, and sex
- I Do Podcast: Avoid these common sex life pitfalls
- Real Souls: Sex, myths and porn
- I Do Podcast: New relationship rules
- Smashing the Ceiling: Sex, shame and sexual games
- Science of Self Help: Sex therapy with Jessa
- Sexy Marriage Radio: When sex feels like work
- Thrival Nutrition: Improving your sex life with your partner
- Heart and Hustle: What I do as a sex therapist and why I do it
Featured Publications
Articles
- Shape.com: 6 Things Monogamous People Can Learn From Open Relationships
- Mind Body Green: The Subtle But Powerful Mindset Shift That Can Transform Your Sex Life
- Mind Body Green: Will an Emotional Affair Kill Your Relationship?
- Mind Body Green: 7 Resolutions For Couples to Make to Improve Their Sex Life
- Mind Body Green: Is an Open Relationship Right For You? An In-Depth Guide
- Mind Body Green: The 5 Most Common Sexual Concerns, According to a Sex Therapist
- Mind Body Green: The Holidays Can Be a War Zone for Relationships. Here's How to Come Out Stronger as a Couple
- Mind Body Green: Morning Sex is Good for Your Health. Here's How to Make it Happen
- Mind Body Green: How to Have a Productive Argument According to a Couple's Counselor
- Mind Body Green: Caught in the Sexual Avoidance Cycle? Here's how to break free
- Mind Body Green: Here's How to Figure out What Really Turns You On, According to a Sex Therapist
- Mind Body Green: 8 Steps Toward Healing When Your Relationship is Falling Apart
- Well & Good: 3 Tips to Make Sure Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms Doesn't Turn Your SO into Your Roommate
- Refinery29: What It Really Means If You Dream About Cheating On Your Partner
- Refinery29: Yes, Your S.O. Can Be Your Best Friend
- Refinery29: Is the G-Spot a big lie? 3 experts weigh in
- Refinery29: How to sexually arouse yourself when you're not in the mood
- Prime Women: Is lack of sex behind mid-life divorce?
- Insider: Here's why you may feel pain after sex — and when you should worry about it
- Insider: Here's the surprisingly common reason why you might feel sad after sex
- Insider: 9 orgasm myths you need to stop believing
- Insider: 9 unexpected health benefits of masturbation
- ParentGuide CA: Sex without stress
- Hitched: Escaping the Sexual Avoidance Cycle
- Love Sujeiry: Resentful & Stopped Having Sex? Get It On Again With These Tips
- Marriage.com: How to Find the Best Sex Therapist – Expert Roundup
- Marriage.com: Bring Back Your Sex Drive by Understanding Your Elusive Libido
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