Sex & Intimacy Blog
This is how to apologize to your partner
Originally written for Mind Body Green - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-say-sorry-right-way-to-apologize-to-your-partner A good apology can make a world of difference in repairing the rifts that all relationships encounter. But it's easy to miss the...
The Taker/Allower Exercise
The Giver/Receiver exercise is designed to help you practice what I call the nine tenants of a healthy sex life: prioritizing intimacy, communicating about sex, accessing desire, enjoying the journey, being present, being okay with “no,” being selfish, being giving,...
Exploring Eroticism
In several previous posts, I have written about the importance of being able to talk openly with your partner about your sex life. Whether you talk about your sexual history, the difficulties you’re having in your current relationship, or what your desires are,...
Be Giving
In last week’s blog, I talked about how being selfish can help you better enjoy your sex life. Asking for what you want and accepting all the pleasure you deserve is healthy. But just as there is a time to be selfish, there is a time to be giving. Phase 8 – Giving...
Be Selfish
For the last few weeks, I have been offering my nine tenants of a happy sex life and how the Giver/Receiver exercise can help you practice them. Let’s get to number seven. Phase 7 – Being Selfish Most people are raised to believe that selfishness is bad. And it...
Be OK With Hearing No
So far, I have written about five tenants of a healthy sex life. They are all things you can practice, so don’t feel discouraged if they are missing from your life right now. Next, I want to talk about a sixth tenant: being ok with hearing no. You might think this is...
Learn to be Present
Last week, I talked about how enjoying the journey, rather than focusing on the outcome, can help you have a happier sex life. Likewise, learning to stay present in the moment can deepen your connection with your partner and your enjoyment of the experience. Phase 5 –...
Enjoy the Journey
Continuing the discussion of the tenants of a healthy sex life, I want to talk now about enjoying the journey. The Giver/Receiver exercise is particularly useful in helping you stay more present and less goal oriented. Phase 4 – Enjoying the Journey Being attached to...
A couple’s guide to having healthy expectations around Valentine’s Day
Originally written for Mind Body Green - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-couples-should-spend-valentines-day-healthy-low-pressure Valentine's Day feels like one of the most high-stakes days of the year for couples. If you're in a new relationship, you may...
7 Resolutions For Couples To Make That Will Improve Their Sex Life
Originally written for Mind Body Green - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/sex-relationship-resolutions-couples With the new year upon us, it's a good time to take stock of the past year, remember what you have to celebrate, and consider what you might want to...
Is An Open Relationship Right For You? An In-Depth Guide
Originally written for Mind Body Green -https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/open-relationship-guide As we take stock of our lives at the beginning of a new year, perhaps you’re considering whether an open relationship is right for you and your partner. There is...
The 5 Most Common Sexual Complaints Couples Have
Originally written for Mind Body Green - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/most-common-sexual-complaints-couples-have As a sex therapist, I see an amazing breadth of presenting issues and concerns in my practice. Despite the fact that I talk about sex all day,...