Couples Sex Therapy

Helping you create your best possible sex life

Sex therapy is helpful when:

You feel hopeless that you will ever get to enjoy a satisfying sex life.

You feel disappointed with the sex in your relationship.

You and your partner fight about sex (or avoid the subject altogether).

You physically can’t have sex the way you used to.

You have limited knowledge or experience with sex.

You avoid sex because it’s painful, stressful, or anxiety producing.


My Values & Beliefs

You are not broken; things can get better.

There are good reasons for the problems you are having; we just have to figure out what they are. It can be affected by age, health, psychological concerns, and relationship dynamics, as well as by daily life taking its toll. Some of these things can be changed. For others, you need to adapt to a new normal. Either way, you can create your best possible sex life.

This is best done as a couple.

You can’t take sex out of the context of your relationship. Whatever is going on in your sex life, it’s affecting your relationship AND how you and your partner react affects the sexual issues. This is why I work only with couples and why I have extensive training in couples therapy. We have to address relationship issues alongside addressing your sexual concerns.

Sex and intimacy are important.

I do this work because I think it’s important. People suffer when they struggle in their sex life. I want to help you figure out how you can improve your sexual functioning and enjoyment. I work with you to create the changes you need to make to have more pleasure, joy, intimacy and connection.

I am sex positive and inclusive.

I am sex positive and LGBTQ welcoming, which means that I respect all sexual orientations, relationships and behaviors that are consensual and non-exploitative.

My Approach

I hold you capable, believing that your strengths are up to the challenge of addressing your relationship problems. It would be a disservice to you for me to water down therapy. I invite the best parts of you to come forward. I expect you to grow in your ability to honestly look at your darker motivations and to confront yourself about them. Only the best part of us can talk about the worst parts; the worst parts will always pretend they are not there.

I hold a tremendous amount of compassion for you and your struggles, and I have an ability to put you at ease in session. I value being kind, approachable and yet direct at the same time, providing honest feedback delivered with goodwill. When working with couples, I am good at developing rapport and understanding with each of you. My comfort and ease in talking about relationship struggles and sexual issues makes it easier for you to share intimately so that you can get the most from therapy.

Challenge is a fundamental part of therapy, and the ability to challenge productively comes from the respect and warmth that I bring to my role. It is out of my respect for you and my concern for your happiness and well-being that I challenge you to think differently about your situation, to act differently within your relationships or to see the dynamics in a different light. I believe that you come to therapy to achieve change of some sort; I want to challenge you to take action toward confronting yourself, holding yourself accountable and showing up in your life in the best possible way.

Online Therapy

Available for New Mexico and Washington State residents

  • Convenient access to therapy if you can’t travel to Seattle
  • Meet in the comfort and privacy of your own home
  • Requires internet access and a webcam
  • Forms must be submitted in advance
  • Easy online invoicing to handle payment in advance

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