Couples and Marriage Counseling

Helping you create a fulfilling intimate relationship

Couples counseling is helpful when:

You think your relationship can’t work, you’re with the wrong person, or you fear you have to give up getting what you want.

You have a great working relationship, like roommmates or business partners, but somehow you can’t be as good together when it comes to sex.

You struggle to communicate with your partner.

You avoid the difficult conversations.

You have the same fights but never seem to resolve anything.

 

My Values & Beliefs

Struggles don't mean you're failing.

Relationships are difficult. I believe they are meant to challenge us to grow, at least if we stick with them over time. What seems like a crisis or disaster now can be the doorway to making your relationship better than ever. We need to figure out the dynamics in your relationship that have you stuck and help each of you change your part. You can have the difficult conversations you need to come out stronger.

Helping couples is the focus of my practice.

I want you to find more happiness and connection in your relationship. I work with two people, each of whose best interests are my concern. My focus is on your growth, your insight, and your capacity to be in relationship. The process is more powerful because this work is done in the presence of your partner and with their input, support and challenge.

I work with all kinds of couples.

I am sex positive and LGBTQ affirming. I would with straight, gay, lesbian, queer, fluid, and trans couples, as well as monogamous, monogamish, open and poly relationship structures.

There is no better way to grow as a person than to make the changes required to thrive in your relationship.

Nothing challenges us more than learning to interact well with someone we love and cherish. Inevitably, our issues intertwine and we end up triggering each other. These struggles are an opportunity to deal with and heal our own individual wounds and coping strategies.

My Approach

I hold you capable, believing that your strengths are up to the challenge of addressing your relationship problems. It would be a disservice to you for me to water down therapy. I invite the best parts of you to come forward. I expect you to grow in your ability to honestly look at your darker motivations and to confront yourself about them. Only the best part of us can talk about the worst parts; the worst parts will always pretend they are not there.

I hold a tremendous amount of compassion for you and your struggles, and I have an ability to put you at ease in session. I value being kind, approachable and yet direct at the same time, providing honest feedback delivered with goodwill. When working with couples, I am good at developing rapport and understanding with each of you. My comfort and ease in talking about relationship struggles and sexual issues makes it easier for you to share intimately so that you can get the most from therapy.

Challenge is a fundamental part of therapy, and the ability to challenge productively comes from the respect and warmth that I bring to my role. It is out of my respect for you and my concern for your happiness and well-being that I challenge you to think differently about your situation, to act differently within your relationships or to see the dynamics in a different light. I believe that you come to therapy to achieve change of some sort; I want to challenge you to take action toward confronting yourself, holding yourself accountable and showing up in your life in the best possible way.

Online Therapy

Available for Washington State residents

  • Convenient access to therapy if you can’t travel to Seattle
  • Meet in the comfort and privacy of your own home
  • Requires internet access and a webcam
  • Forms must be submitted in advance
  • Easy online invoicing to handle payment in advance

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