First – Decide if you want therapy or if you could be better served using (or starting with) my online program
Is Therapy the Right Fit?
Therapy is the best option if:
Your issues go well beyond sexual challenges.
There are other relationship dynamics that need to be addressed. There may have been incidents that need to be processed, complex issues that are difficult to resolve, or challenges in several different areas of your relationship. You could have sexual challenges in your relationship, but they can’t be addressed outside of the context of the rest of your relationship.
Your struggles are deeper or more longstanding.
There may be trauma or long standing difficulties that need more support than an online course can provide. You may have been facing challenges for many years, and they have caused a well of negative feelings. You may be questioning whether this is the relationship or partner you want.
You struggle to work as a team.
It’s been hard to find common ground. It’s hard to talk about difficult topics without someone ending up defensive. You would benefit from someone there to help guide the conversations and support the two of you in having a productive process to resolve the situation.
You prefer to work with someone outside your relationship.
You want to work with a therapist, to have the more sustained and therapeutic relationship. You need the deeper dive into your internal processes and the interactions with your partner. The DIY model doesn’t suit you as well; it’s helpful to have set appointments and facilitated conversations.
Or Would the Course Suit You Better?
The course could be the perfect option if:
You don't live in Washington State.
I am licensed as a therapist in Washington, so I can only do therapy with people that are in state. The online program is not therapy, so it is open to anyone. It includes online coaching calls, so you’d still get support and answers to questions.
Your relationship is good, but sex is a problem.
The rest of your relationship is pretty solid, but you struggle in the bedroom. There is love and goodwill, the two of you can work as a team in most ways, but somehow sex is still problematic. You can be facing struggles around sexual desire (differences or lack of desire), sexual dysfunction, or anxiety and negative feelings. The online program walks you through a process to improve your sex life, and it really may be all you need.
You're ready to make the most progress in the shortest time.
You want to take action and work through some things on your own – as long as you’re shown what to do. You’re interested in jumping right into a process that’s laid out for you, so you can cover the most ground and start to make change. You can add therapy later if you need more help or if you run into trouble. The course gives you a big head start in the process, saving you time and money.
When I have a wait list for therapy.
Sometimes I have space for new clients right away, and sometimes people have to wait. This is a great way to get started during the times I have a wait list for my therapy practice.
Yes, I want therapy
The course could be perfect
Not sure which is right for you? No problem!
I’m happy to help you figure out what the right approach is for your particular situation and challenges.
The Online Program
I’ve taken everything I’ve learned as an AASECT certified sex therapist and the experiences I’ve had working with hundreds and hundreds of couples over the years to craft a program to help you transform your sex life into something you both look forward to.
Intimacy With Ease is not just a description of the problem and what’s got you stuck; it’s an implementation program that walks you through a process where you can change your experience.
It includes video lessons, homework and action steps, live (and then recorded) online live coaching calls, a private community, and monthly hot seats (where one couple gets a half hour consultation with me).
The end result: ease and joy in your sex life that will help you adapt to any challenges you face now or in the future.