Does it feel like sex can fail? That if it doesn't go a certain way, it's a problem?
How often do the two of you fight about sex?
Does your partner focus on the frequency of sex in your relationship?
Do you worry you don't know what you're doing?
Do you know what you need to get aroused?
Do you get enough foreplay?
Do you get (or take) the time and touch you need to get aroused?
Do you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other psychological concern that makes it hard to want sex?
How often do life's responsibilities make it hard to relax and show up for sex?
Do you have pain with sex?
Have you had sexual trauma in your life that still gets in your way of enjoying sex and feeling totally comfortable?
Are you afraid to start something you may not be able to finish?
Do you and your partner communicate about what you want and don't want in sex?
How much does sex mean one particular act or outcome for you and your partner?
Is it hard to be present in sex?
Does your body respond the way you want?
How often are you having sex out of obligation?
Do you think you need to do and enjoy certain things?
Have you believed something must be wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship when sex hasn't been working so well?
Do you feel discomfort or shame about sex or your sexuality in general?
Do you ever get in the mood once you get going?
Have you had changes in the way your body responds sexually that makes sex harder?
Have you ever been orgasmic?
Does your partner care about your pleasure in sex?
Are you orgasmic with your partner?
Does it feel like's it okay to stop a sexual encounter at any point?
Have you had any disability, illness, injury, or surgery that affects what you can do sexually?
Does your partner get distant, grumpy or sad if they don't get enough sex?
How often does sex seem to end badly?
How often do you and your partner create the opportunity to be physical together?
Does your partner struggle with any issues around arousal, erection, orgasm or other sexual function?
Are you self-conscious or negatively judgmental about your body?
Do you ever have thoughts that something is wrong with you because you don't have enough desire?
Has your partner made comments about your body or your sexual performance that made you feel bad?
Does your partner do things sexually that you don't like?