Welcome to your quiz: Why do I not want more sex?
This is a 35 question quiz. While not a scientific quiz, it does use what I've learned about sexual desire in my years of clinical practice as an AASECT certified sex therapist. I have designed it to give you ideas about why you may be struggling with lack of desire. You will get your results and suggestions about how to improve via email, as well as ongoing information and ideas about improving your relationship and creating your best possible sex life.
This quiz is designed for people that are in a sexual relationship and who want to look at the interactions between themselves and one specific partner. If you are in a sexless stage of your relationship and the answers don't already account for that, answer the question based on what sex was like when you had it.
"Sex" refers to any sexual encounter, not just penetrative sex.
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Are you self-conscious or negatively judgmental about your body?
Does your body respond the way you want?
Have you had sexual trauma in your life that still gets in your way of enjoying sex and feeling totally comfortable?
How often are you having sex out of obligation?
Have you ever been orgasmic?
How much does sex mean one particular act or outcome for you and your partner?
Does your partner focus on the frequency of sex in your relationship?
Does it feel like sex can fail? That if it doesn't go a certain way, it's a problem?
Does your partner do things sexually that you don't like?
Do you worry you don't know what you're doing?
Do you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other psychological concern that makes it hard to want sex?
Do you get (or take) the time and touch you need to get aroused?
Do you have pain with sex?
How often do you and your partner create the opportunity to be physical together?
Are you orgasmic with your partner?
Do you think you need to do and enjoy certain things?
Does your partner care about your pleasure in sex?
Do you feel discomfort or shame about sex or your sexuality in general?
Is it hard to be present in sex?
Do you know what you need to get aroused?
Do you get enough foreplay?
How often do the two of you fight about sex?
Are you afraid to start something you may not be able to finish?
Have you had any disability, illness, injury, or surgery that affects what you can do sexually?
Do you and your partner communicate about what you want and don't want in sex?
How often does sex seem to end badly?
Does your partner get distant, grumpy or sad if they don't get enough sex?
Has your partner made comments about your body or your sexual performance that made you feel bad?
Does it feel like's it okay to stop a sexual encounter at any point?
How often do life's responsibilities make it hard to relax and show up for sex?
Do you ever have thoughts that something is wrong with you because you don't have enough desire?
Does your partner struggle with any issues around arousal, erection, orgasm or other sexual function?
Do you ever get in the mood once you get going?
Have you had changes in the way your body responds sexually that makes sex harder?
Have you believed something must be wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship when sex hasn't been working so well?