Seattle Sex Therapist for Couples

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Take the Free Quiz

How big a problem is your sex life?

Take this free online quiz to understand the impacts of any sexual challenges you face and to learn what to focus on to make it better. This is a great starting point and can be used as a conversation starter with your partner.

Dealing with Desire Discrepancy

In this mini-book, you’ll learn how to:

  • Make it easier to access your desire for intimacy
  • Change the dynamics with your partner so that intimacy can be fun and easy for both of you
  • Create an intimate life that you can enjoy, without having to think about it

I am conducting all session remotely.

I am Seattle sex therapist, but I can work with anyone who lives in Washington. Ever since COVID forced us all into remote work, I have seen clients via a HIPAA compliant account with Zoom. The ease and flexibility make it an easy choice to continue to only see clients virtually. I do not plan to return to my office at this point.

Remote sessions are easy and convenient.

All you need is internet access and a camera, so you can attend using a computer or a smart phone. My meeting room has a waiting room, so it’s secure. You and your partner can be together or dial in apart.

Helping You Create Your Best Relationship

Unlock Your Full Potential in Sex Therapy.

When your intimate life suffers, your whole life suffers. Whatever it is that you are missing, or concerned about, can cast a dark shadow on what otherwise might be a wonderful relationship.

I help couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured.

I have the skills and experience to help you figure out how to improve your relationship and your sex life.  Together, we’ll work to create the changes — both emotional and physical — you need in order to add pleasure, joy, and intimacy to your relationship.

Don’t continue to struggle on your own.  Let me help!

Extensive training in couples therapy


AASECT certification as a sex therapist


Focused exclusively on helping couples with sex and intimacy


Author of "Sex Without Stress" and host of the Better Sex Podcast


Couples’ Sex Therapy and Counseling

  • Are you feeling sad or lonely in your relationship because your sex life is so bad?
  • Has your body changed in the way it responds during sex?
  • Is your sex life being affected by aging, disease or disability?
  • Is sex painful, anxious or disappointing?
  • Has your disappointing sex life become the elephant in the room?
  • Have you become only really good roommates or co-parents?
  • Are you lonely in your relationship?



I help couples who are struggling with sex and intimacy – for any number of reasons.

Perhaps one of you has some sort of sexual dysfunction (trouble with arousal, orgasm, pain, etc).

Maybe your differences in level of desire are creating feelings of rejection, frustration, inadequacy, or guilt.

Maybe one of you is struggling to want sex at all.

Any maybe it’s hard for the two of you to talk about what’s going on (and what’s NOT going on) in a way that’s constructive and friendly. Or maybe you avoid the topic entirely.

I can help you create a sex life that is actually easy and fun for both of you. Let’s get rid of the pressure and any feeling of obligation that clouds your sex life.

Seattle Sex Therapist's book Sex Without Stress

By Jessa zimmerman

Dealing With Desire Discrepancy?

5 Steps to Making Intimacy Less Stressful

Isn’t sex supposed to be easy?

Do sexual problems mean I’m in the wrong relationship?

How do we get to the point where sex is fun again?

Am I broken? Is there any hope?

This book takes on the heart-wrenching questions that naturally arise when couples are struggling with sexual desire differences. Once sex becomes synonymous with disappointment, avoidance sets in and creates pressure in the bedroom. In this straightforward and practical book, Zimmerman guides us to understand the cycle that develops when sex is difficult, to shift our mindset when it comes to sexual intimacy, and to transform our sexual experience with our partner using a nine-phase experiential process.



Dealing with Desire Discrepancy

This mini-book helps you make intimacy less stressful.

Better Sex Podcast

A weekly podcast that covers a range of topics that can help you improve your sex life.

Daily Conversation Starters

Get a daily text message with a question you and your partner can discuss to build intimacy sent to your inbox.


Online Sex Quiz

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Find out by taking this free quiz, and get helpful suggestions for improvement.

What do we need to know about you as a Seattle Sex Therapist?

You have a lot of choices when you are searching for a Seattle sex therapist. Finding a good fit is important. While you want to make sure that any therapist is licensed in the state and is qualified to help you, you’ll also want to consider their vision of relationship health and their approach to working with clients. If you still have any questions after reading through my website, I would be happy to answer them!

1. Do you specialize in working with couples?

Yes, I specialize in couples therapy. Unlike many therapists who do “a little of everything,” my practice is exclusively devoted to working with couples, especially regarding issues of sexuality and intimacy.

I have pursued extensive training, completing an intensive externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, PACT couples therapy,  as well as several multi-day clinical workshops in Crucible Therapy with David Schnarch and Ruth Morehouse.

Because I am also an AASECT certified sex therapist, I can integrate sex therapy and couples therapy creating an holistic approach to intimacy issues.

2. I see you are AASECT certified. Why is that important?
Certification is important because it signifies a significant amount of training, supervision and experience dealing with sexual issues.

AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) requires over 160 hours of rigorous curriculum, 50 hours of supervision and hundreds of hours of clinical experience in order to grant certification.

While Washington state does not regulate the term “sex therapist,” certification distinguishes a therapist who has made the commitment to be fully qualified to provide sex therapy.

3. What kind of people get the most out of choosing you as a therapist?
The people that I help the most come to me knowing that they cannot keep doing things the same way anymore.

They are open to self-reflection, they have an ability to confront themselves and to be honest about what they are doing, and they have a real desire for growth and integrity in their lives.

They focus on their own contribution to their issues and resist the urge to blame others.

They value honest feedback and directness delivered with good will.

They are ready to make the commitment of time and resources that change requires, and they are determined to make the most out of that investment by being committed to and engaged in the process and expecting me to bring my best to every session.

4. If you are working with a couple, do you ever see the people individually?

No. Couples work is always done together. The process is something you share and experience in my office. 

This policy maintains a balanced relationship with both people. It also serves to prevent me from having any information that has not been shared with the absent partner.

5. How long does therapy last?
So much depends on exactly what situation a client faces and how much they want to accomplish at this time. While some people come in for a very particular question or decision (resulting in very brief therapy), others come in determined to shift many longstanding issues (which can mean remaining in therapy for a year or more). Most of the time, however, I work with clients for somewhere between 3 and 6 months to accomplish their goals.

Interested in the online course?

Feel totally close, connected, and secure in your otherwise happy relationship.

Intimacy With Ease™ is a private online program that teaches and supports you to take the stress out of your sex life so that you can feel totally close, connected, and secure with your partner.

An online course based on my book, this intimacy course is designed to support couples through a process of transforming their sex lives through webinar teaching and structured at home activities and exercises that they can do alone and with their partner.

About Me

I am a Seattle sex therapist who helps couples who long to share a great sex life with their partner, but who find themselves feeling distant, disconnected, anxious or at odds about sex instead.


I guide people through a process to understand their own needs and desires in relationship, as well their individual contribution to the problems, so that they can make their sex life as good as the rest of their relationship. I know from my years in practice focused on couples & sex that no matter how stuck you might feel right now, sex can be a joy instead of the elephant in the room. I believe that strong, healthy, fulfilling relationships make the world a better place.

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